I’ve experienced variations to two of the most common lies narcissists tell their supply.
With both of these common lies, the variations were from different relationships with narcs.
Firstly, the religious one: the first variation was a forceful anti-religion/anti-spiritual stance, designed to invalidate my faith and support system; the second variation was an equally forceful pro-spiritual quest, designed to overpower my trust in my faith and to eradicate my support system; the third variation was a stealth approach to erode my recently restored self-faith and spiritual practices, using grandiose claims of self-healing capacity to denigrate my own self-healing practice.
Secondly, the wealth lie: I’ve had two variations on this from two different narc relationships. The first one was that the narc (my ex-husband) used to be materially comfortable but marriage and kids took all his money, with his public story focused on how he sacrificed himself for us (all the while spending money on expensive cosmetic procedures while I struggled to feed us all).
The second variation was from my most recent relationship: his family had money but he chooses to earn his own way, except that he’s struggling and living on very little, thereby promoting his hard work ethic while excusing his lack of funds.
This is only a summary in response to a topic posed by an acquaintance. It definitely needs to be fleshed out but for now, it’s here to start the record of this aspect of my narc victim story.